A bit of a rest~

I recently ran into my friend Jake. Neither of us have been in world much and the times that we have did not coincide. Imagine my delight when I had the opportunity to spend time with him?

We had some time exploring a few sims,just cuddled and talked...
Frankly, I needed that...even fairys need a a place to rest aside from a flower.

RLV~ One fairy's view ~ First an introduction...

First of all, I am not saying that the RLV is not for anyone in particular, just not for me. Please allow me to explain as simply as possible this intricate device. Be prepared, the explanation of the device may be longer than my explanation of why it is not for me. So in this post I will attempt to explain the workings of the RLV, in the next one I will explain my feelings about it.


The RLV~

The RLV is the Restrained Life Viewer. Originally created by Marine Kelley, it is a customized viewer that gives dominants a far greater level of control over their submissives. This modification of the second life viewer makes it possible for restrictions to be placed on subs that are simply not possible with the normal viewer.


Actually, just running the viewer makes the restrictions possible but nothing will happen unless you also wear an item that places restrictions on you.

With RLV restrictions IMs may be blocked, both incoming and outgoing, or IMs may only be allowed from certain individuals. It can block your ability to send or receive messages in chat. The effect? (Gag's, blindfolds and earplugs can now be 100% effective)


It can block the ability to send messages on alternate channels ...such as the use of emoters or other devices that relay text or accept commands(an exception list is possible.) There is a command that can also block the text from appearing over people's heads, in the chat window, so that the submissive may have no idea who they are talking to. If the dominant so chooses, you cannot open note cards. If you have note cards open when this is locked they will be closed at that time.


Sitting may be blocked, this is in two modes: you may not be able to SIT at all, or you must be within 1.5m of an item in order to SIT...or it can force sitting, locking you in place so you cannot stand, force you to sit on an item, no matter what your feelings are.


RLV can make any item undetachable, blocking the ability to wear clothes, allowing the dominant to forcibly remove clothes, or forcibly remove any attached item. There is a command that allows the owner to get a listing of all attachments and all clothes. This includes items attached to your hud. When an item is "locked"such as a collar you cannot unlock it or detach it, the menu options are gone, if you try to right click on them. Your inventory may be locked down so that you cannot open your inventory window. Marine Kelley also provides a free script that can be added to the contents of ANY item to give it the ability to be locked by the dominant.

Building may be blocked, as well as edit tools being locked and blocking the ability to rez objects.


Logins may be limited to your last location. So you cannot escape whatever predicament you may have been in by simply logging out then back in world in a different location..

The ability to TP may be blocked, or limited to specific landmarks, or allow you to TP only when invited by specific individuals. There is even a "force TP".. this feature allows the dominant to forcibly send the submissive anywhere in SL. No asking, no chance of complying or refusing, no discussion, just "poof" there you are, in the middle of a Gorean Sim, a nightclub, or a gangbang, at the whim of the dominant in control.

There are some really clever products designed to be used with the RLV...still, all choice is gone, with the RLV. Perfect for a bottom, but in my opinion, not for a submissive, at least not this one.



Why? I will explain soon...

For my friends...

I did not realize until shortly after my last posting about Gor that I would get feedback so very fast.



Several people immediately felt that my posting meant that I may be in search of a Gorean collar. I was surprised by this. After having said, so many times, that I have a problem with being in the collar of different people, in different worlds. (rl/sl)

Gor~

As much as I have loved being on Gor in the past, I am not sure that it is possible for me to be a woman on Gor without wearing a collar of some sort. Well, I have no interest in being a FW or a Panther, and I certainly have no interest in changing my gender! I put so much of myself into the role that I play, even in RP that it can be a bit disturbing, and is not simply a game where I am disengaged from the avi.

For the moment, I am wandering around Gor, when I have the chance. I am not sure where any of this will lead. One thing I learned long ago is never to say never. However, at the moment I like who I am, and where I am, so it is highly unlikely that I would want to change anything about my circumstance.

Me too!

For the first time I altered one of my posts. It was pointed out to me that I was being unfair, and I have to agree. Seems I have been a cranky fairy as of late. Blame it on being sick in rl couch* cough*. Whatever the reason there is no excuse. I beg your pardon. Back to more positive posts in the future!...Now for my amended offering...

Recently, I attended another class at the D/s academy, the subject being poly, and how each participant was handling it. There were more combinations than you would have thought possible. When a Dominant is dealing with more than one girl, it is a delicate balance. Both in rl and in sl.
A Master or Dom handling more than one girl has many problems that may crop up. Sometimes it is a simple matter of personalities not meshing, sometimes it is much more insidious. There is a particular type of submissive that I like to call the "me too" I would like to address in this post.
"Me too" submissives tout their individuality, they want to be treated as the special person that they are. Nothing wrong with that right? Ahh, but here is the catch! They do not want the same for the other girl that may be in the relationship. In other words, she wishes to be treated uniquely, but also wishes to have whatever treatment given to her sister, bestowed upon her...a nearly impossible task unless dealing with a clone.
The dominant has the very difficult task of trying to balance the submissives in his care. It is not that I feel sympathy for his plight. However I do empathize. A "me too" may also me called, "MeMeMe" and is little more than a cleverly disguised passive aggressive manipulator in submissive gear.

She may be difficult to spot, because she usually tells all and sundry what a wonderful submissive she is. So here is a clue:
If she discovers that you have something that you share with another submissive in your care and she insists that the exact same is done for her...she is a "me too submissive"


Only advice I have for a Dom meeting this sub is this: Buyer beware!

(PS I am NOT a Me too submissive...I promise!)

Gorean Grid Wide Hunt ends...

Well , today was the last day of the Gorean Grid Wide Hunt. What great fun it was!

I searched high and low for the hearts with the quiva through them. (Barely a stone ,or should I say homestone?) was left unturned.
The group was a great help and I just want to thank those that put it together and those that participated for a totally fun experience! I made new friends and met some interesting people along the way that I would like to get to know better!

I have some new favorite places to add to my list. I will not mention them yet, but I shall let you know about them very soon!

I am looking forward to the next hunt...something about a Looking Glass? How can I resist?

Gorean Grid Wide Hunt!

I spent some time last night following the Gorean hunt. Had stumbled upon it while shopping and decided to start at the beginning and follow the path where it led me. OK, once again I am astounded by the creativity of the people on sl!



I am only about a third of the way through, and I was lucky enough to hook up with a couple of other hunters... the more eyes the better, I always say! My favorite, so far has been a place that makes musical instruments! If you have the time, join in the fun!Hope I see you there!

On a side note:
Actually, I had started this hunt after running through the lag(insert a chuckle about the word running, here) at Twisted and Spoiled, for their hunt. Such cute things in that store! However the patrons had to strip themselved of any HUDs, prim objects (including some hair), and even tossed AOs so that they could actually move. What we women will do for a bargain! (I flatly refuse to lose the AO, myself)

These are my very first hunts, and I had fun! Have not opened any boxes yet, so not sure if it is worth the effort, but I did get to see some stores and some merchandise I did not know existed, so I think that the point is made. Try it sometime!

Both Sides of the Looking Glass

By chance, I was lucky enough to attend a talk lead by Havelock Raymaker, a RL Dominant and tutor for the organizers, the D/s Academy. The discussion was held partially in voice and partially in text, at first I had a few glitches, but after that was worked out I have to say that I was impressed by the speaker and the others attending. The topic? Is there such a thing as abuse in SL and if so what forms do you think it takes ?

The discussion reminded me of so many that I have been to in rl. I found the participants thoughtful, and reasonable. The original topic soon turned toward the responsibility of both parties in a D/s relationship. The care that is taken to keep the trust of the submissive from becoming abusive. The key being communication.

The talk was over far too soon! I am happy to have stumbled upon the meeting and hope to attend more in the future!

While I am on the subject of good dominants...

Last night, I happened to catch my good friend Jake after he had been toying with a submissive elsewhere. Now, he and I have a very playful relationship. However I have a slight tendency to push his buttons once in a while.Well, it seems that last night he was in more of a mood to push back and finally...I received a well-deserved spanking. I am not an owned submissive, I am not anyone's property, however last night I was totally in his thrall. I begged, pleaded, cajoled, bargained, whined, wheedled, squirmed, cried and tried everything else in my fairy bag of tricks...all to no avail.~Sighs, happily~ Sometimes a fairy just needs a good spanking. Even a sweet reasonable, level headed fairy, such as myself!

When all else fails...hug your bunny

It has been a tough weekend, and sometimes you just have to spend some quality time with your bunny!

That's the limit!

I was reminded recently that I need to place my limits in my profile, but I was also reminded that not all limits are things that you can state at all, simply because I may not be aware of them as possibilities.

There are things that can be done in sl that really I cannot imagine being possible in rl. Though with a little imagination, I guess... some of it might be possible?

Knowledge, it is a good thing but also what got Eve the bad rep. I have a few questions before I start to place my limits in my profile.

Am I supposed to know about all of the possible kinks to put them on a list?

What do I do if I do encounter one that I am not aware of?

There are ways of taking care of these things.

~~Safewords~~

BDSM 101~ A bit of a rant

Sighing here, and thinking that this is a good time to say this, since I am convinced that very few read this BLOG. Hopefully, it should not stir anyones pot, toooo much.

So here goes...

This is not aimed at anyone in particular. There are several people that claim to "teach" others about how to be a submissive or how to be Dominant. Recently, I read a disclaimer from one teacher, that her particular lessons are aimed at people interested in the bdsm lifestyle in sl, only. I do not have a problem with learning about D/s in sl. However, please allow me to be perfectly clear about my personal feelings about teaching someone to be a Dom or sub.(Excuse the caps.)

THIS CAN NOT BE TAUGHT!

You either are or you aren't. Period.

I had expressed this to someone, not to long ago, and she agreed, being much more eloquent than I in her assessment. "It is like teaching someone to be left-handed or right-handed. You are either one or the other."

Maybe I am too much of a purest about being submissive, but I have strong feelings about the trust that exists within the power exchange.

Allow me to tell you a quick story.When I first came to sl, a man, approached me, he self-identified as a Dominant. He was actually very nice, but i was abit rankled when told me that he "knew" what it was to be sub. "Interesting," I thought. When I asked him how he knew knew this... he mentioned that he had had lessons. When asked how many lessons it took for him to acquire this knowledge. He said it was about 10. (I cringed)

I think that you can teach someone to "act" submissive or Dominant. I do not think that you can teach someone to "be" such.

Take a look in the mirror, what do you see?

End of rant~

Meeting New People.

Well as you know, I am pretty new to SL.

So, I tend to wander. I am sometimes shopping, sometimes discovering. Most of the places I go I find because I have been profile drilling.

As I wander around, many times I end up talking to someone. This time I was lucky enough to find my way to the Faery Crossing.

I am not sure of the details so if I am wrong they should feel free to correct me....

It is a lovely place consisting of 9 sims. I have only visited the market where I made the Lindens very happy, I think. The beauty and gentility that I found in this place was beyond anything I had expected to find. I am always surprised by the creativity here in sl. But this surpassed all expectaions. The lady that spoke to me ther told me that they have even created a gateway to teach newcomers about the area and the expectaions for behavior.

I was complimented when she told me that by my demeanor and dress I would fit right in. But I do plan to visit the gateway soon since I strongly believe in the adage about being in Rome...

BTW I have connected my profile to this BLOG and every once in a while someone makes a comment about it. Usually it is someone who asks me about my involvement with rl D/s and how it differs with sl D/s. I have run into some interesting aspects here in sl. I think that I should address them in a later post.

The second pic is of an area on Nayeli for Fairies and Mermaids and anyone that wishes to cuddle. (With or without a leash.)

Where the red cube led me...

One day, after I had been introduced to the Dark Den red cube intended for the role play certification (More on that in a later post) I ventured there.

The lights grew dim, sl, was having its version of a brown out and I was left alone on the sim, (almost)unable to tp out, and pretty sure that if I tried I would be one of the casualties...as I watched the counter of on-line log ins for sl drop to under 30K for people in world Now was my chance to explore the Den without fear of kidnap or enslavement, or so I thought.

I was aware of only one other person on the sim. This was beast, the alter ego, half sister, would be uni-bomber of Dark Den. (recently re-programmed)

She offered to give me a tour of the Country of Glint. During this time we talked about many things. I had not learned to log conversations yet, so I have not idea what it was we talked about. But I do know one thing...

I was enchanted... I still am...

Mermaid Phase

Sometimes known as Sea Fairies

I am a creature of the Fey

Prepare to give your soul away

My spell is passion and it is art

My song can bind a human heart

And if you chance to know my face

My hold shall be your last embrace.

Sailors for the longest time have told yarns about the ladies of the deep that have come to their salvation. To this day these ladies of legend are spoken of with the awe they so richly deserve.

There are many places on SL that are created specifically to explore mermaids or being one. The beauty and creativity found at these places touched some place primal and deep within me. They say that we come from the sea originally. Do you think that might be why some of us feel this aquatic pull?

I have been lucky enough to be given the space to express do that myself. It is a small cove by the fairy grove on Nayeli. Still under construction, come see me sometime...or better yet, come explore on your own. Do not miss the underwater patio.

Don't worry, you should be able to be underwater, wearing the Gorean Meter, without drowning...

If you stay on the mosaic images of Neptune, that is. Or you can come dance with me!

The Transformation

So now I am outfitted and after having been given a list of "acceptable" places where I can buy a skin...this is the result. what do you think? I have stepped thru the looking glass, become a mirrored image of myself. Now I stand at the brink of a new adventure. After a bit of advise from the girl I vouched for, off she goes!



Oh, the cube? The cube was at a place called the Dark Den. But that is a story for another day...

So, Now time to explore?

Through the glass I go. Welcome to Second Life!