Friday, April 10, 2009

Easter Weekend

It is Easter Weekend. A time of new beginnings.

It is also spring, or it is supposed to be here in my neck of the woods in real life.
There are many ways to go in sl.

You can fall down a rabbit hole~

You can relax and have tea~

You can grow bigger than life...

or smaller that the meekest creature~
It is all up to you!

I just want to wish everyone the best ...this is your sl, not anyone's go out and explore, have fun!

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Both sides of the mirror~~ What really matters??

Recently, Nayeli has been undergoing a lot of renovations for a variety of reasons. I knew that there were going to be a lot of changes, but was not prepared for what that meant, being new to sl. A day later, my mailbox was filled with notifications of returned items sent back to my lost and found.

When I rezzed into world, many things had been changed, moved, buried, or well OK...dug up. (I DO tend to be a bit of a hazard at times) The problem with my reaction was that I was at a loss, I literally did not know what to feel. It was not anger or hurt, but I was definitely not happy at all. I had no coping mechanisms for change in a vitual world that was beyond my control. So I froze. I stopped feeling, disengaged from the situation and stepped away to gain some perspective.

Now that is fine to do in rl, because the non-verbal communication helps. But in sl, the only thing that other people are aware of is the silence, and silence can be deadly. The assumption? That I was upset, when in reality I did not know what to feel, so felt nothing. I noticed that many things were moved intact, which I know took a great deal of effort. I was grateful and appreciative of that. The closest I can describe my reaction would be that someone had been in my house and had rearranged my things. I was confused and disoriented, possibly dazed?

My point in telling this is that it is difficult to predict what our reaction will be to changes in a virtual world. The physical objects and people may be pixels but the feelings and emotions they engender are very, very real.

What I finally said in responding to the concerns of my dear friend was that it really did not matter. Even if these things were real, none of them mattered because they are objects, not people. People are all that matter, in this world, rl or sl…the rest is just window dressing.

So this morning I returned to gather a few things and looked around, conjuring a plan in my head to restructure the fairy and mermaid area. I hope that it will be better than ever! And…I hope, most of all, you visit and enjoy it…

Monday, April 6, 2009

My first 3 months on sl...What's next?

So now I have been here for 3 months and had a 'blog for one month.
It is better than Alice ever, ever could have imagined!

So please, please allow me this little review of my first few months...

Sunday, April 5, 2009

Follow the money~

Sighing here...Well seems that someone , (probably one of the two people that read this 'blog) sent my little 'blogpost to the author that I referred to from my soap box as mean-spirited. So... this time I feel compelled to step thru the looking glass and turn my gaze in that direction once more.The only comment the 'blogger made regarding my post is to correct my assertion that she charges L$1000... actually she charges L$2000. PT Barnham was correct, there IS one born every minute! Since nothing else was said, one must assume that she has no issue with anything else included in my post. I am happy to be seen as accurate, thank you!

Now, as far as charging for her services, it is like anything else. Buyer beware!

Just remember that this is someone who presents herself as a submissive, and teaches people how to be Dominant or submissive, in private lessons, for a fee. Also, please remember that as far as anyone knows, she has been notably unsuccessful in that endeavor herself. (If past performance is any indication of the future, I am cringing.)

According to her own 'blog, in a little over a year, she has had three Masters, and has sold herself in her sim's auction, from the stage where she offers her free D/s lessons. This sale, to another trusted "Master" for a few of hours. In her Jan 3 post, after complaining that he was not paying enough attention to her, she announced--He released her in an IM during her class about how to find and keep a partner if I recall, correctly...(poetic or ironic?) According to her own words she left one Master twice, had another one in there for a short period of time, tried to reconcile with the other Master recently...arrrrghhhhh...Someone get a white board for me please? Oh yes, then there was the 72 hour Master just recently....she left him as well. Accompanied by the requisite 'blogpost.

Now I do not care what world you are speaking of, if you are rl or sl, a submissive does not leave a Master, then announce it to the world in a 'blog. She begs permission to leave. When it is granted, she does so. The only thing needed to be said at that point is that she is no longer in His collar, period. That is much simpler than D/s, it is just good manners. Why tell the world she left him unless she wants the world to see her as the one in control?

When writing this post, I noticed, the 'blogger recently removed the owner of the sim as her "Protector" and has someone new. I can only assume that this is to remove the "appearance" of being in his sway. They still have very close ties, and that sim is all about money. It is not anything to be ashamed of, the sim owner is not. He proudly proclaims that he has over 3 Gazillion sold! (ALA McDonalds.) He says that he will *win* the sim auction war. (I had not known that one was being waged, sorry.) He is every bit as proud of his financial motivation in selling slaves, as she is of doubling the price of her services, Just be very aware though, you do not always get what you pay for, ask the former customers of Bernie Madoff.

I have no problem with the 'blogger making money. I am lucky, I do not need to on sl. In that I am blessed. I do not feel the need to have 30+ 'blogs( Feb 24, 2009 post) or wear my 'blog address over my head in flashing red. I do not need to malign the work that others do for free everyday, in order to feed my own tender ego. I am a very, very, lucky girl. I have a real life and a Master that helps me to be happy and fulfilled. I have a sl that is fun and exciting with people I love dearly and enjoy being with as much as I can. Referring to what others are doing in sl as dangerous, when what they are doing is offering the same service as she, appears to be at the very least disingenuous.

My point is this, if taking lessons gives you a vocabulary that allows you to express yourself in a vernacular that has been foreign to you up to this point, that is not a bad thing. You can pay L$2000 to someone for this, $L100 for it, or go for free, to lessons and sites across the grid and over the internet. I have had people stop me when I am exploring and talk to me about it, and guess what, I did not charge a dime! Decide for yourself what is right for you. I am begging you to be an informed consumer. As my wise friend said, no one can teach you how to be left or right handed. You are either one or the other. It is the same with Dom or sub. You can pretend or kid yourself into thinking that you are something that you are not. You can fight it and remain unhappy. Some men are not Dominant or submissive, they might just be kinky vanilla guys. Some women are not either as well, but call themselves submissive so they can find a Dom to serve their needs without feeling they have betrayed feminism, by being kinky. Those women are not looking for a Dom, they need a "service top."

There are as many reasons and flavors available to you in D/s as there are people. The best advise that I can give you is this... and remember you are getting it for free...Find the key that fits your lock and relish in the experience and pleasure that is sure to come your way.

For now, I just want to get back to having fun~~