The hunt is on!!

Well,it took a bit longer than I thought it would, but I finally embarked on the Looking Glass Hunt!

I am sure that I am not meant to be a hunter, (I seem to be much more naturally hunted, if you know what I mean?) Soooo... this may be the last hunt for me for a while. My eyes ache from scanning for tiny mirrors!

I find that I never open the boxes, and frankly the thought of the people that litter boxes all over the stores of the participants infuriates me!

Oops, looks like I need to go to bed, I seem to be getting a tiny bit cranky! (For a fairy, at least)

The creativity of people on SL STILL amazes me to no end! Try this hunt, it is not easy, but well, nothing worth having ever is, is it?

The Looking Glass

OK ...you know I HAVE to do this one!!


Well it is a holiday weekend, and the weather is pretty bad...so why not join me?

My kink is better than yours!

Let's face it, we are all wired differently. What makes blood rush thru my veins at a great clip...could very well leave someone else cold. (I doubt it, but it could happen!) So many choices, so little time!
Checklists are available that cover almost every activity/kink imaginable...and some that are beyond imagination...at least for me. I discovered this while in the process of listing my limits in world. I came across a kink that, in sl, is offered in a fashion I had not thought possible.

For me, the very idea was so abhorrent, my aversion so strong, that when placing my limits in my profile...'emphatic' would be a mild word for describing my aversion to the activity. That does not mean that the people onto that activity are wrong...it just means, it will not fit my particular needs.

In bdsm, (rl and sl) there is an us/them judgmental process that occurs. While we accept that one person's pain or humiliation is another's pleasure... there is a certain intolerance for some kinks. I am not talking about ones that could even be considered dangerous...the attitude is more of, "My kink is better then yours."

Here, where we can be anything we want... a fairy...a neko... a vampire... a Centaur ... a doll ...a furry .... ( I seem to have a personal affinity for the otters) Alts are often created by some who wish to explore some of the less accepted activities. Whatever form or need being explored by your avatar, the key is SSC. (Safe, Sane and consensual)

Safe~Physical safety is pretty much about as assured as you can get on sl , unless there is someone without any sense,(impaired) following the directions of another with as little sense, or at least lacking the sensibility to know or care about the danger.

Sane~Well... see the last statement...However, that said... Mental safety is still very much at risk. Remember there is a big red X in the corner, but sometimes, by the time that is used, the damage has already been done.

Consensual~ Consent is a tough one. Some say that by merely being here consent is implied. Some tout that to have consent all parties involved need to know everything about the other parties... or it is a lie. Does someone have to be fully informed ...do they have a right to know everything about the person they are playing with to consent? Probably not. I reserve my information to a select few.
So what does this mean for me? (Since no one is free of preconceived notions, even me)
Hopefully, the next time I see someone with a Dolcett tag over his head I will try to remember that he is probably looking at my fairy wings with an *eye roll* and a shudder...because there is a good chance he is thinking his kink is SO MUCH better than mine.
(On the other hand, maybe...dessert?)

Follow the money~

Sighing here...Well now...it seems that someone , (probably one of the two people that read this 'blog) sent my little 'blogpost to the author that I referred to from my soap box as mean-spirited. So... this time I feel compelled to step thru the looking glass and turn my gaze in that direction once more.The only comment the 'blogger made regarding my post is to correct my assertion that she charges L$1000... actually she charges L$2000. PT Barnham was correct, there IS one born every minute! Since nothing else was said, one must assume that she has no issue with anything else included in my post. I am happy to be seen as accurate, thank you!


Now, as far as charging for her services, it is like anything else. Buyer beware!

Just remember that this is someone who presents herself as a submissive, and teaches people how to be Dominant or submissive, in private lessons, for a fee. Also, please remember that as far as anyone knows, she has been notably unsuccessful in that endeavor herself. (If past performance is any indication of the future, I am cringing.)


According to her own 'blog, in a little over a year, she has had three Masters, and has sold herself in her sim's auction, from the stage where she offers her free D/s lessons. This sale, to another trusted "Master" for a few of hours. In her Jan 3 post, after complaining that he was not paying enough attention to her, she announced--He released her in an IM during her class about how to find and keep a partner if I recall, correctly...(poetic or ironic?) According to her own words she left one Master twice, had another one in there for a short period of time, tried to reconcile with the other Master recently...arrrrghhhhh...Someone get a white board for me please? Oh yes, then there was the 72 hour Master just recently....she left him as well. Accompanied by the requisite 'blogpost.


Now I do not care what world you are speaking of, if you are rl or sl, a submissive does not leave a Master, then announce it to the world in a 'blog. She begs permission to leave. When it is granted, she does so. The only thing needed to be said at that point is that she is no longer in His collar, period. That is much simpler than D/s, it is just good manners. Why tell the world she left him unless she wants the world to see her as the one in control?





When writing this post, I noticed, the 'blogger recently removed the owner of the sim as her "Protector" and has someone new. I can only assume that this is to remove the "appearance" of being in his sway. They still have very close ties, and that sim is all about money. It is not anything to be ashamed of, the sim owner is not. He proudly proclaims that he has over 3 Gazillion sold! (ALA McDonalds.) He says that he will *win* the sim auction war. (I had not known that one was being waged, sorry.) He is every bit as proud of his financial motivation in selling slaves, as she is of doubling the price of her services, Just be very aware though, you do not always get what you pay for, ask the former customers of Bernie Madoff.



I have no problem with the 'blogger making money. I am lucky, I do not need to on sl. In that I am blessed. I do not feel the need to have 30+ 'blogs( Feb 24, 2009 post) or wear my 'blog address over my head in flashing red. I do not need to malign the work that others do for free everyday, in order to feed my own tender ego. I am a very, very, lucky girl. I have a real life and a Master that helps me to be happy and fulfilled. I have a sl that is fun and exciting with people I love dearly and enjoy being with as much as I can. Referring to what others are doing in sl as dangerous, when what they are doing is offering the same service as she, appears to be at the very least disingenuous.




My point is this, if taking lessons gives you a vocabulary that allows you to express yourself in a vernacular that has been foreign to you up to this point, that is not a bad thing. You can pay L$2000 to someone for this, $L100 for it, or go for free, to lessons and sites across the grid and over the internet. I have had people stop me when I am exploring and talk to me about it, and guess what, I did not charge a dime! Decide for yourself what is right for you. I am begging you to be an informed consumer. As my wise friend said, no one can teach you how to be left or right handed. You are either one or the other. It is the same with Dom or sub. You can pretend or kid yourself into thinking that you are something that you are not. You can fight it and remain unhappy. Some men are not Dominant or submissive, they might just be kinky vanilla guys. Some women are not either as well, but call themselves submissive so they can find a Dom to serve their needs without feeling they have betrayed feminism, by being kinky. Those women are not looking for a Dom, they need a "service top."



There are as many reasons and flavors available to you in D/s as there are people. The best advise that I can give you is this... and remember you are getting it for free...Find the key that fits your lock and relish in the experience and pleasure that is sure to come your way.



For now, I just want to get back to having fun~~

BDSM 101~ A bit of a rant

Sighing here, and thinking that this is a good time to say this, since I am convinced that very few read this BLOG. Hopefully, it should not stir anyones pot, toooo much.

So here goes...

This is not aimed at anyone in particular. There are several people that claim to "teach" others about how to be a submissive or how to be Dominant. Recently, I read a disclaimer from one teacher, that her particular lessons are aimed at people interested in the bdsm lifestyle in sl, only. I do not have a problem with learning about D/s in sl. However, please allow me to be perfectly clear about my personal feelings about teaching someone to be a Dom or sub.(Excuse the caps.)

THIS CAN NOT BE TAUGHT!

You either are or you aren't. Period.

I had expressed this to someone, not to long ago, and she agreed, being much more eloquent than I in her assessment. "It is like teaching someone to be left-handed or right-handed. You are either one or the other."

Maybe I am too much of a purest about being submissive, but I have strong feelings about the trust that exists within the power exchange.

Allow me to tell you a quick story.When I first came to sl, a man, approached me, he self-identified as a Dominant. He was actually very nice, but i was abit rankled when told me that he "knew" what it was to be sub. "Interesting," I thought. When I asked him how he knew knew this... he mentioned that he had had lessons. When asked how many lessons it took for him to acquire this knowledge. He said it was about 10. (I cringed)

I think that you can teach someone to "act" submissive or Dominant. I do not think that you can teach someone to "be" such.

Take a look in the mirror, what do you see?

End of rant~

Mermaid Phase

Sometimes known as Sea Fairies

I am a creature of the Fey

Prepare to give your soul away

My spell is passion and it is art

My song can bind a human heart

And if you chance to know my face

My hold shall be your last embrace.

Sailors for the longest time have told yarns about the ladies of the deep that have come to their salvation. To this day these ladies of legend are spoken of with the awe they so richly deserve.

There are many places on SL that are created specifically to explore mermaids or being one. The beauty and creativity found at these places touched some place primal and deep within me. They say that we come from the sea originally. Do you think that might be why some of us feel this aquatic pull?

I have been lucky enough to be given the space to express do that myself. It is a small cove by the fairy grove on Nayeli. Still under construction, come see me sometime...or better yet, come explore on your own. Do not miss the underwater patio.

Don't worry, you should be able to be underwater, wearing the Gorean Meter, without drowning...

If you stay on the mosaic images of Neptune, that is. Or you can come dance with me!

So, Now time to explore?

Through the glass I go. Welcome to Second Life!

My First Post! Or do I really need to explain the name of my BLOG?

On January 7th of this year I rezzed into the world that we call Second Life. I have been here once before, long ago, but left for various reasons. The avis are not half bad now and when you are brand spanking new, you may be lucky enough to find yourself at Hyles Info Hub...They have all manner of things available to the new avi on the go! Clothes, shoes, Fairy wings, Vampire attitre, Neko attire...Did I mention clothes? Now wait...All of this and heaven too? (gasping) An AO! No more walking like a duck!

"Through the Looking-Glass, and What Alice Found There. "(1871) is a work by Lewis Carroll (Charles Lutwidge Dodgson). It is the sequel to Alices Adventures in Wonderland. (1865). Here the mirror theme runs rampant, including opposites, time running backwards, reading Jabberwocky, and so on. Alice ponders what the world is like on the other side of a mirror (the reflected scene displayed on its surface), and to her surprise, is able to pass through to experience the alternate world.

If the book were written today, think Alice might be in Second Life?