Bubble dancing

I often recieve messages as notecards or IMs when I log into world, that are to do with this 'blog. It usually surprises me, since I assume that I am one of the 3 readers. The comment that I cherish the most was a quick IM complimenting the accuracy, and fairness of a recent, if not somewhat controversial couple of postings (I really do try to be sound unbiased.)
It is not as if I care if I upset a few people, because I find vitriolic diatribe so very tiresome. Something inside of me cannot help but point out the blatant inconsistency of slamming people with undercover alts when that same person not only has them, but threatens people with them as well. Comon, anyone coming from an RP background, would be used to people having several alts. It was not until I came to sl that I found that this was an issue.
Writing a 'blog is a bit like dancing on a bubble. Any moment those screeching contradiction of statements might poke through and all will *pop* There goes credibility! I am happy to tell readers how I think or feel. I just do not want anyone to think that if they do not agree with me, I will denigrate them in pixels. This is not a bully pulpit. It is strictly a chronicle of my journey through sl.

There is plenty of room for all of the choices we have. I think that we should stop worrying about what others are doing and just relax and have fun!

Oh and the bubbles that I am sitting on are available at a place called Happymood. You can find all sorts of delightfully fun objects for the well appointed fairy, nymph or just for fun !

My kink is better than yours!

Let's face it, we are all wired differently. What makes blood rush thru my veins at a great clip...could very well leave someone else cold. (I doubt it, but it could happen!) So many choices, so little time!
Checklists are available that cover almost every activity/kink imaginable...and some that are beyond imagination...at least for me. I discovered this while in the process of listing my limits in world. I came across a kink that, in sl, is offered in a fashion I had not thought possible.

For me, the very idea was so abhorrent, my aversion so strong, that when placing my limits in my profile...'emphatic' would be a mild word for describing my aversion to the activity. That does not mean that the people onto that activity are wrong...it just means, it will not fit my particular needs.

In bdsm, (rl and sl) there is an us/them judgmental process that occurs. While we accept that one person's pain or humiliation is another's pleasure... there is a certain intolerance for some kinks. I am not talking about ones that could even be considered dangerous...the attitude is more of, "My kink is better then yours."

Here, where we can be anything we want... a fairy...a neko... a vampire... a Centaur ... a doll ...a furry .... ( I seem to have a personal affinity for the otters) Alts are often created by some who wish to explore some of the less accepted activities. Whatever form or need being explored by your avatar, the key is SSC. (Safe, Sane and consensual)

Safe~Physical safety is pretty much about as assured as you can get on sl , unless there is someone without any sense,(impaired) following the directions of another with as little sense, or at least lacking the sensibility to know or care about the danger.

Sane~Well... see the last statement...However, that said... Mental safety is still very much at risk. Remember there is a big red X in the corner, but sometimes, by the time that is used, the damage has already been done.

Consensual~ Consent is a tough one. Some say that by merely being here consent is implied. Some tout that to have consent all parties involved need to know everything about the other parties... or it is a lie. Does someone have to be fully informed ...do they have a right to know everything about the person they are playing with to consent? Probably not. I reserve my information to a select few.
So what does this mean for me? (Since no one is free of preconceived notions, even me)
Hopefully, the next time I see someone with a Dolcett tag over his head I will try to remember that he is probably looking at my fairy wings with an *eye roll* and a shudder...because there is a good chance he is thinking his kink is SO MUCH better than mine.
(On the other hand, maybe...dessert?)

All my eggs in one basket?

Recently, someone mentioned using an alt to get through the system of a rival. This piqued my curiosity so I decided to ask several people questions about alts. SL itself, estimates that there are several alts per user.


Some people have very strong feelings about the use of alts. They see it as some sort of a character flaw. Others, like the person who said that she would use an alt to sneak through a testing system, see it as a practical solution. As an entity, SL offers a certain anonymity the moment you create an avatar. The avatar is an alt in itself. Does setting up a separate account constitute a weakness of character, or the ability use the medium to a further extent?


When asked, many people have said that they have alts. I suspect that the reasons are almost as different as the amount of users. I have heard of sex alts, sub alts, Dom alts. furry alts, neko alts, vampire alts, gamer alts, transgender alts and sci fi alts. There are alts used for RP, (role play) that enrich the story line, and alts that people have created to escape the history they have written as that avatar.


Some people that create alts do so to to explore different parts of their personalities. These people refer to their "main" avatar. That would be the one that the person most closely relates to,or it can be the "banker" alt. Some create alts to wreak havoc as a griefer. (Not nice.) Some use alts as investigators, or to just have that chance to be anonymous again.


Is it wrong to have an alt? One girl told me that if she only had one character on sl it would be like having all of her eggs in one basket. She said, " I am limited in rl, why should I be limited in sl?" The question alts becomes one that each person must answer for him or herself.

Me, I think that it would be very expensive, and my time is so limited, it is not even an option that I can entertain. Besides, I am already a fairy, mermaid, OBGYN, submissive, and Alice the 'blogger.

I think that is enough, for now.