A bit of a rest~

I recently ran into my friend Jake. Neither of us have been in world much and the times that we have did not coincide. Imagine my delight when I had the opportunity to spend time with him?

We had some time exploring a few sims,just cuddled and talked...
Frankly, I needed that...even fairys need a a place to rest aside from a flower.

GOR-addiction or what?

OK, I will say it here and in public. My name is Pippa and I like Gor. I think that some of the best RP occurs there. I happen to like the defined roles. This is a type of addiction that keeps drawing me back.

It is where I started in RP, before there was an SL. Gor is where I learned to crawl, to walk, and to crawl again, if needed. (RP wise that is)

I love the ritual, the clearly defined roles, the black and whiteness of it all.

That being said, I have been disillusioned by what I have seen on SL Gor. From my scant wanderings and from talking to a few people, I have had the impression of a bunch of exiles from World of Warcraft running around with weapons,calling each other bro. They seemed to be living in cities run by slaves, on every level, because Masters were too busy ...well running around playing with weapons. That said, I believe my impression may have been a hasty one.

Recently I have been persuaded that there are viable well run RP Gorean sims out there that are interested in intricate and well honed RP skills. Actually, I came to this realization since I participated in the Gorean Grid Wide hunt and had increased my exposure to more Goreans again. Now I am off in search of those sims. I am not sure that I am ready to give up my freedom and kneel as a Gorean slave.

However... a fairy can dream, can't she?

What IS real life? (Defining terms)

I have heard this question or debate from several different quarters lately. This is usually paired with, but many times independent of, the oft seen phrase of sl is sl, and rl comes first. So please allow me to define what the term rl means me as well as to most of the people that I have known, in and out of world.


RL(real life) interaction takes place between 2 people, at least, who are physically in the same room. It includes RL obligations like SO(significant Other), bills, career, school, etc. There is not other way to mean RL.


What is sometimes used as an alternate definition of RL is the RL exchange that occurs with 2 people, or more, are involved in a long distance relationships. This is in no way a less valid relationship, however it does not fit the definition of a RL relationship. An LD (long distance) relationship may involve following rl directions.


Following RL directions takes place when 2 people, who may be separated by miles, time zones, or even hemispheres interact, and one is following the directions of the other in real time, either in voice or text.(sometimes cam, which carries many risks BTW)


SL or VR (Virtual Reality) is still interaction between real people in real time. However, it may be taking place between 2 people that are both in the moment, OR one/both people are simply playing a role. This would be more akin to a pure RP scenario than honest rl emotional exchange and investment of one person to another.


Does this mean that the bonds formed, the love that develops, the caring or anger that exists when in sl or vr is any less real? Not one bit! The impact that I feel, the emotional attachments, even love that develops between people on-line is very, very real.


But if I say that I live in a rl 24/7 relationship, that means still the physical presence of the 2 people involved. Please make no mistake about this. This is the commonly accepted definition.

What I have offered is strictly a definition of terms, but sometimes the discussions involving rl vs sl can be so confusing, I felt compelled to clearly deliniate between the levels of involvement.

Mirror images

Wow, I have had more than a few comments, in IM, about my last post when I last logged on. Let me be clear, about something. I am not denigrating sl Master/slave relationships. There is a clear bond between this sort of meeting of the minds. However, if you are someone that is acting out submission without ever having knelt at someone's feet. how do you know how that truly feels? You and I sit here, behind the safety of a screen.For example, I was told once of a wedding on sl where the bride interrupted the ceremony with something like ((brb, my Ramen noodles are ready)) You tell me, how committed was she?

When I am here, rping that I am being tied to a post,spoken to in a certain manner, and then I am spanked, used or whatever...I have a very real visceral memory/connection to the real life experience and my response to the scene is multiplied exponentially. I understand, without doubt, what it takes to place myself in the hands of someone who has me helpless, and in his/her thrall.

I also know what it is like to live the experience 24/7. There are dimensions that I never could have imagined, had I not lived through them in rl. There are many tests to this sort of relationship, since it is not accepted conventionally, it remains under wraps. I have been called an anticipatory slave. "Thoughtful" is the vanilla word for it, I think. Vanilla friends have expressed concern at my "submissive" attitude. Please know that the most important word in a D/s relationship, is relationship. Maybe this is why I do not seek or wear a collar. I dearly love the people that I interact here, but I wonder if I am able to wear two collars? I know that people have a marriage in the real world and one here on sl, but is that me? For now I am content the way things are.

So if you are strictly in an sl relationship, please do not feel defensive or think that I mean that you are less committed. What I am saying is this... There are dimensions to your psyche that you cannot explore from behind a desk. For me, it was so much better to push off from the dock and set sail on an ocean of discovery , exploring in ways I had only imagined until then. That was the right course for me, it is up to you to choose the path for you.

BTW, from the day I met my Master, I have not played in rl with anyone other than him.

Some nice down time...

While my rl has been so very busy, the few times I have managed to squeeze into world, I am just happy to spent a precious minute or two with a friend, just relaxing...

A drama free zone indeed!!

Well, for now...

How to be creative on SL~ For me it is basically RP

I am constantly amazed at the creativity here on SL. The textures, the objects, the scripting...it is a mystery for me. Personally, I see myself more as a decorator. I do not create objects...I buy and place things in what is hoped to be an artful arrangement that others might enjoy. I decorate my body (my avatar), and my surroundings. This writer is more about the feelings evoked by the physical environment, not the function. I think that comes from a background in Role Play that was well established before I came to SL.

I had fought coming here to SL. Had heard about it for several years. I felt that the visual world would make me lazy or cheapen the role play. That is not true, I must say. But it did take some time, getting past the visual and audio aspect of sl. So distracting...it felt like an assault and really...So much information...so many things to learn!

At first, I was overwhelmed...there seemed to be such huge amounts of stimulation! Talking body parts? They left me cold. If some part of me is tingling then I need to be able to describe it myself, not afk, getting noodles out of the microwave while some automated flesh does my talking for me. I found that aspect an afront to my RP sensibilities.

Then I wandered into Dark Den, I found that RP is still RP, I did not need to learn how click poseballs. I could still create or respond to the action, using visual as a backdrop. There are many RP sims around the grid, with various rules. Since RP is something that is close to my heart, I may have delayed talking about it very much here.

However, now I would like to explore role play here for a while, on the 'blog. There are some classes around the grid where you can go to learn the basics. Some are offering certificates in the activity. The processes vary, but one hopes the end result is the same. Good interaction by people who are present in the moment and enriching the experience for themselves and for others.

All my eggs in one basket?

Recently, someone mentioned using an alt to get through the system of a rival. This piqued my curiosity so I decided to ask several people questions about alts. SL itself, estimates that there are several alts per user.


Some people have very strong feelings about the use of alts. They see it as some sort of a character flaw. Others, like the person who said that she would use an alt to sneak through a testing system, see it as a practical solution. As an entity, SL offers a certain anonymity the moment you create an avatar. The avatar is an alt in itself. Does setting up a separate account constitute a weakness of character, or the ability use the medium to a further extent?


When asked, many people have said that they have alts. I suspect that the reasons are almost as different as the amount of users. I have heard of sex alts, sub alts, Dom alts. furry alts, neko alts, vampire alts, gamer alts, transgender alts and sci fi alts. There are alts used for RP, (role play) that enrich the story line, and alts that people have created to escape the history they have written as that avatar.


Some people that create alts do so to to explore different parts of their personalities. These people refer to their "main" avatar. That would be the one that the person most closely relates to,or it can be the "banker" alt. Some create alts to wreak havoc as a griefer. (Not nice.) Some use alts as investigators, or to just have that chance to be anonymous again.


Is it wrong to have an alt? One girl told me that if she only had one character on sl it would be like having all of her eggs in one basket. She said, " I am limited in rl, why should I be limited in sl?" The question alts becomes one that each person must answer for him or herself.

Me, I think that it would be very expensive, and my time is so limited, it is not even an option that I can entertain. Besides, I am already a fairy, mermaid, OBGYN, submissive, and Alice the 'blogger.

I think that is enough, for now.

Soapbox Derby~

Hi, OK time for another rant…

So I am climbing on my soapbox and having my say!

I have been trying very, very, hard to stay out of controversy, but really. Sometimes some people are so blatant in their criticism of others it begs the question…
What is missing from this person’s life that they can be so mean spirited?






There is another 'blog that I shall not name. I have to say that most times I enjoy reading it. As a newcomer to sl, I find it informative about what there is to be offered to us on the grid. For me reading this 'blog is just one in a long list of sources for entertainment. I do not count on it for forming opinions, just as anyone here should form his/her own opinion, and not count on mine.
According to their 'blog, they recently went to a sim that offers a certification process, not DD but a different sim. I am not familiar with this sim, and have no idea about what is offered there or by whom.


However, the apparent issue was the fact that this sim offered certification.
Now, certification is defined as: A document attesting that a person or organization meets minimum standards or qualifications in a specified area. Usually issued by an organization with recognized expertise in the area.








In rl I deal daily with Professional Licensure, Registration, and Certification. Any and all of this documentation is only as good as the organization, licensing body, or in this case, group issuing it. Which is why a Curriculum Vitae is important. A Curriculum vitae is a summary of your academic and work history, A written account of one's life comprising one's education, accomplishments, work experience, publications, etc. It can also be defined as a personal history of one’s education, professional history and job qualifications with a strong emphasis on specific skills relating to the position being applied for.


BTW, This same "blogger" has just recently rolled out a certification of her own. (actually in RP) By her own words, she is not affiliated with any organization or Sim. Note- Certification is a document issued by an organization (meaning more than one person) Also noted that as far as I know she has never been certified in RP herself, or at least she does not offer that as a qualification.

She does, however, offer classes on a sim that sells products and slaves and is a Barker for the auction house owned by that sim. Though her classes are for free, the attendees are reminded aggressively (dare I say bullied?) to tip, by the sim owner and single female attendees are often approached to become stock and subsequently offered for auction by the sim. She also sells her services for L$1000….to be taught how to be or supposedly to act like a Dom or sub. Not that she has any rl experience, that she has ever spoken of. Her own submissive Ramo, failed to garner any bids, on two separate occasions, when offered on the block at that same auction house... Another former student taught in private lessons to be a submissive suffered the same fate at a different auction. (Not the best of recommendations, IMHO)

With that established, I would have to say that I understand why anyone that she approaches in the attempt to “pass through” their certification system would greet her with suspicion and derision. Now she threatens to squeak through the system in a guise of the intrepid reporter. It is, after all, "her job."

So now, we have a self proclaimed wannabe (see the March 14, 2009 posting of her 'blog) Without rl experience declaring a system she has not attended dangerous?


Maybe she is right…who knows?
All we have now are her words, born of her own twisted imagination.