A bit of a rest~

I recently ran into my friend Jake. Neither of us have been in world much and the times that we have did not coincide. Imagine my delight when I had the opportunity to spend time with him?

We had some time exploring a few sims,just cuddled and talked...
Frankly, I needed that...even fairys need a a place to rest aside from a flower.

Why the RLV is not for this submissive...fairy or not...

This may cause a bit of controversy, but after all, a 'blog is just one person's humble opinion. This 'blog happens to be my humble opinion. So now I think I should say a bit about why the RLV is not for me.


For me, submission is the gift that keeps on giving. It is an ongoing process of something called a power exchange. Within the relationship, the giving is constant. As much as I love being dragged around on a leash or in other ways controlled in some manner. The fact that my consent is not longer needed cheapens it for me. For one thing, when I am being dragged around on a leash I relax and let the leash holder do the work. Why would I be any different in the RLV?


So, for me the RLV would have the same result... allowing me to relax and let the dominant do all of the work, in every aspect of the relationship. In giving up the need to follow direction, to have to act in order to obey, all meaning would eventually be lost for me. I have heard that being in the RLV is very relaxing for the submissive, taking away all of those pesky decisions. I have no doubt that I would like it, but it would make me lazy and if enough choices were made for me instead of my having to comply with those choices, actively..then my real submission, what makes me...well...me, would be lost.


To put it simply the difference between how I view submission and how those that enjoy the RLV is the same for me as the difference between active vs. passive submission.


Allow me to ask this question of a dominant...

Which would you prefer:

A. Press a button and have me kneeling at your feet or placing me in a cage, in some way directing my actions with a stroke of the keys. Would you like to cut off my ability to speak to someone that had displeased you or you thought was not good for me.

B. Direct my actions with a word or a flick of the wrist, and my actively complying with your whim or wishes. Would you like to tell me that I am not to speak to a person, consequentially, I place him/her on mute after informing them that my Master had instructed me to do so.

For me, the choice is clear...

It is up to you to make the choice for yourself.


I know that the RLV is not static and the control is on a scale from mild to extremely restrictive. So if I were with a Master who wished to use it or wanted to try it, I would. It is my dearest hope that he would continue to value my opinion in this matter.

Maybe the real difference comes from living in a rl D/s relationship. My submission is not something that can be controlled by a button, I must give myself each and every day. In sl, to truly be the submissive I am, I would have to do the same.

RLV~ One fairy's view ~ First an introduction...

First of all, I am not saying that the RLV is not for anyone in particular, just not for me. Please allow me to explain as simply as possible this intricate device. Be prepared, the explanation of the device may be longer than my explanation of why it is not for me. So in this post I will attempt to explain the workings of the RLV, in the next one I will explain my feelings about it.


The RLV~

The RLV is the Restrained Life Viewer. Originally created by Marine Kelley, it is a customized viewer that gives dominants a far greater level of control over their submissives. This modification of the second life viewer makes it possible for restrictions to be placed on subs that are simply not possible with the normal viewer.


Actually, just running the viewer makes the restrictions possible but nothing will happen unless you also wear an item that places restrictions on you.

With RLV restrictions IMs may be blocked, both incoming and outgoing, or IMs may only be allowed from certain individuals. It can block your ability to send or receive messages in chat. The effect? (Gag's, blindfolds and earplugs can now be 100% effective)


It can block the ability to send messages on alternate channels ...such as the use of emoters or other devices that relay text or accept commands(an exception list is possible.) There is a command that can also block the text from appearing over people's heads, in the chat window, so that the submissive may have no idea who they are talking to. If the dominant so chooses, you cannot open note cards. If you have note cards open when this is locked they will be closed at that time.


Sitting may be blocked, this is in two modes: you may not be able to SIT at all, or you must be within 1.5m of an item in order to SIT...or it can force sitting, locking you in place so you cannot stand, force you to sit on an item, no matter what your feelings are.


RLV can make any item undetachable, blocking the ability to wear clothes, allowing the dominant to forcibly remove clothes, or forcibly remove any attached item. There is a command that allows the owner to get a listing of all attachments and all clothes. This includes items attached to your hud. When an item is "locked"such as a collar you cannot unlock it or detach it, the menu options are gone, if you try to right click on them. Your inventory may be locked down so that you cannot open your inventory window. Marine Kelley also provides a free script that can be added to the contents of ANY item to give it the ability to be locked by the dominant.

Building may be blocked, as well as edit tools being locked and blocking the ability to rez objects.


Logins may be limited to your last location. So you cannot escape whatever predicament you may have been in by simply logging out then back in world in a different location..

The ability to TP may be blocked, or limited to specific landmarks, or allow you to TP only when invited by specific individuals. There is even a "force TP".. this feature allows the dominant to forcibly send the submissive anywhere in SL. No asking, no chance of complying or refusing, no discussion, just "poof" there you are, in the middle of a Gorean Sim, a nightclub, or a gangbang, at the whim of the dominant in control.

There are some really clever products designed to be used with the RLV...still, all choice is gone, with the RLV. Perfect for a bottom, but in my opinion, not for a submissive, at least not this one.



Why? I will explain soon...

A sigh of relief...

I have not been on line much lately. Only in short bursts. Devil of it is that rl sometimes really does come first, grrrrrr.

Imagine my surprise when I notice that my close friend Jake has placed a girl in his profile as “interesting” Actually, I think that he referred to "hidden depths". I was struck with a pang when I read that. What was the pang, I wondered? Surely, not jealousy?? I have prided myself on not being jealous. But could it be?

Actually it was not anger with him or the girl that struck me, it was a sense of loss. He has taught me so much, been so kind to me that I did not want that to stop. He has held me when I was confused and helped me to gain some perspective on my life in sl. OK yes, he has spanked me when I needed that too!

What do I care about other women? I never have before, (and there is a cast of thousands)why would I now?

I gathered myself together and sent an IM to him, though he was not on-line. The next time he was, evidently, I received a message from him (sort of a high tech fone tag?) The jist is that his on-line time has been curtailed and will be for a while, as well. Yes, there is a girl, but that has nothing to do with, and will not interfere with, his relationships with me or the other people who are so special to him. (Well I am paraphrasing, but that was the drift)

Now I can relax and return to my fairy ways, when I am able to be in world again, more often. I miss the people I care about so much. The are like rare gems that sparkle in the moonlight…precious to me. I just hope that they know how much they mean to me

Gorean Grid Wide Hunt ends...

Well , today was the last day of the Gorean Grid Wide Hunt. What great fun it was!

I searched high and low for the hearts with the quiva through them. (Barely a stone ,or should I say homestone?) was left unturned.
The group was a great help and I just want to thank those that put it together and those that participated for a totally fun experience! I made new friends and met some interesting people along the way that I would like to get to know better!

I have some new favorite places to add to my list. I will not mention them yet, but I shall let you know about them very soon!

I am looking forward to the next hunt...something about a Looking Glass? How can I resist?

Drama, drama and then ...more drama?

So here I am, back in world. There were various reasons for my being gone, but suffice it to say that I am happy to have returned! I sometimes forget about the drama in sl and what drama it is!

That being said, I just want to say this as well. If I go to a sim, paid for, supported by, built by, and maintained by someone, I do so at his/her whim. Not because I have a divine right to be there.

If I have in some way displeased or upset the person that owns that sim, then why in the world would I wish to stay? I just do not understand, perhaps someone would enlighten me?

I, for one, would not wish to stay where I am not wanted. Now I realize that that is unlikely to happen, but no matter how remote the possibility, no matter how charming and delightful I might think that I am. It is possible.

Tantrums, performed by vindictive, petty people... no matter how justified they feel that they are, are still that, the screaming demonstrations of frustration, hurt, and pain of an emotionally immature individual.

My advice? Grow up, leave, and move on with your life.
You will have much more fun that way and so will everyone else!

Missing you...

It has been a very busy time in my real life, and what I have found bizarre is the number of dreams that have invaded my sleep from my second life...as well as the nature of those dreams. I have not had the chance to be here, consciously, so something took me to sl in my dreams.

  I have not met a person here on sl that does not say rl comes first.  Does this negate the need that we have for the interactions that we have here on sl? I think not.  Nor does it keep us from missing the people that are here.

While away, I sent an e-mail to the only person that I thought would miss me here.  When I did not hear back, after a couple of e-mails, I stopped sending them.  Perhaps, we invest too much emotionally in our sl relationships.  But there it is.

Who's a needy fairy?

I am the person that I am, I have a very busy rl at times.  Other times I have more time to get on-line.  Exploring on sl is what I try to do with much of that time.  At the time I started this venture I did not expect relationships that would garner so much of my attention. Being independant is important to me. But it seems to come at a price. Right now, though I struggle with that, it is well worth it.

Respect is the best foundation for all relationships whether or not they are D/s. We love who we love in all worlds. If they love us back or how they love us back is their own business. I respect those I love, and i realize and accept that we all relate differently. My only hope is that those I love will allow the same for me.

This Side of the Looking Glass

Every time I read something that is said by anyone on sl that they like this or that...some small part of me wonders if they have any rl experience with this particular activity. It is not always about D/s. There are a lot of other things as well.

So about me in rl:
I like Art museums, History Museums, Traveling, Chocolate Martinis, Dancing, Soft Jazz, Hard Rock, Massages, Manicures, Entire weekends of lovemaking, Eating popcorn in bed.

I do not like people that are mean-spirited, bullies or anyone who does not find it somewhere within themselves to find the tiniest amount of compassion.
Yes, in rl or even here, on sl.

In rl D/s:
I love long, long sessions that build 'till I am so deeply in subspace I do not know up from down, in from out, back from front...but ohhh my, I feel so safe and warm, and cared for that...only one thing exists for me there...nothing else can penetrate.

I have played both sides of the coin in rl, when I was learning where my heart truly resides. I still hear from the male submissives that I knew from that short period of my life. Sometimes, while on sl, I still explore my more dom side. But life, even an sl life, is too short to be something that you are not.

So that is me, I live what I talk about here. I know the pitfalls, and the peaks of ecstasy

Maybe I do not wear pixel wings here in rl, but I have been known to fly!

Corporate Loss

Recently I was pointed toward a sim with a Corporate theme. ALA "Mad Men"What I discovered when I arrived was ...well... to say that the build was impressive, would be a gross understatement. It is beautiful! A perfect mix of corporate presentation with non PC behavior, running rampant!

According to the rules on the notecard, only group members were allowed to interact, sexually. I am told that this is strictly enforced and I was questioned in an rathere assertive manner to ascertain whether or not I am a child. (I am well under the normal 6'8" woman.) I was glad of such diligence! Also, each time I visited, (4 times) there was an active, and involved group of roleplayers present. All were very upset that the corporation was going to shut down at the end of May. (The storyline at present is the current economy is to blame for the shutdown, it seems.)Many thought of the place as home.I think that the owner describes the point behind the sim, best...so please allow me to quote from the notecard:

The "story" of the company is that we provide Sex Therapy services and counseling for the general public. While the Sex Therapists will roleplay here working with clients, the office itself will be like many real life office environments, but here we can act out our erotic fantasies with co-workers. We have a corporate business setting where intelligent and creative men and women can act out their erotic fantasies.

What does CMNF mean? It stands for Clothed Male, Nude Female roleplay. This is roleplay that appeals to women who like the idea of flirting with powerful men and engaging in public exhibitionism. Women who like the idea of submitting sexually to intelligent and creative men tend to like CMNF roleplay.

Men are requested to wear business attire and may add an erect penis when using the pose balls. Men should remain clothed during sex and just extend the penis.

Women are encouraged to wear seductive and sheer clothing, or to be at least partially nude during roleplay. Full nudity is also permitted for women, but it is more fun to start clothed and then let the executives strip you.

Due to recent region changes in SL, this facility will be closing at the end of May 2009. As a result, we are not accepting additional members to the group.

The rumor is that since this corporation will be considered an adult area, it must be moved. Moving something that is this intricate is not easily done and evidently, not something that the owner wishes to do at this time.

So,a subject that held little interest for me, has drawn my attention...the new adult content policy. Being new on SL, maybe I have a unique perspective. Let me first say that IMHO LL should have separated PG areas from Mature/Adult themed areas from the get go. But sadly, for whatever reason, that was not done.

"Adult" areas are being told that they have to move somewhere else. I keep imagining something seedy like Potterville. Remember Potterville? That was the name of the sinister town that existed because George Bailey had never been born, in "It's Wonderful Life" Makes me shudder~

Island sims are not involved...yet. Also, one has to be verified as an adult to even see these places in search, from what I understand. What is being created appears to be a sort of caste system, and that makes me a bit uncomfortable.

Still, none of this has affected me, personally, as yet, except...now we must verify as an adult by either giving a social security number or a credit card. Done. Hmmm I have to wonder about the motive in this action?
Whenever I try to understand motivation in business, I always remember the adage always follow the money. I plan to sit back and watch. I doubt that anything that happens next will surprise me, but...you never know!

I have included a short videa tour of the facility..enjoy!Meanwhile, I have to hope that the owner of this corporation will reconsider his decision. It is unique, well constructed, and well run, from everything that I have heard so far! If you get a chance to see it, please do!