RLV~ One fairy's view ~ First an introduction...

First of all, I am not saying that the RLV is not for anyone in particular, just not for me. Please allow me to explain as simply as possible this intricate device. Be prepared, the explanation of the device may be longer than my explanation of why it is not for me. So in this post I will attempt to explain the workings of the RLV, in the next one I will explain my feelings about it.


The RLV~

The RLV is the Restrained Life Viewer. Originally created by Marine Kelley, it is a customized viewer that gives dominants a far greater level of control over their submissives. This modification of the second life viewer makes it possible for restrictions to be placed on subs that are simply not possible with the normal viewer.


Actually, just running the viewer makes the restrictions possible but nothing will happen unless you also wear an item that places restrictions on you.

With RLV restrictions IMs may be blocked, both incoming and outgoing, or IMs may only be allowed from certain individuals. It can block your ability to send or receive messages in chat. The effect? (Gag's, blindfolds and earplugs can now be 100% effective)


It can block the ability to send messages on alternate channels ...such as the use of emoters or other devices that relay text or accept commands(an exception list is possible.) There is a command that can also block the text from appearing over people's heads, in the chat window, so that the submissive may have no idea who they are talking to. If the dominant so chooses, you cannot open note cards. If you have note cards open when this is locked they will be closed at that time.


Sitting may be blocked, this is in two modes: you may not be able to SIT at all, or you must be within 1.5m of an item in order to SIT...or it can force sitting, locking you in place so you cannot stand, force you to sit on an item, no matter what your feelings are.


RLV can make any item undetachable, blocking the ability to wear clothes, allowing the dominant to forcibly remove clothes, or forcibly remove any attached item. There is a command that allows the owner to get a listing of all attachments and all clothes. This includes items attached to your hud. When an item is "locked"such as a collar you cannot unlock it or detach it, the menu options are gone, if you try to right click on them. Your inventory may be locked down so that you cannot open your inventory window. Marine Kelley also provides a free script that can be added to the contents of ANY item to give it the ability to be locked by the dominant.

Building may be blocked, as well as edit tools being locked and blocking the ability to rez objects.


Logins may be limited to your last location. So you cannot escape whatever predicament you may have been in by simply logging out then back in world in a different location..

The ability to TP may be blocked, or limited to specific landmarks, or allow you to TP only when invited by specific individuals. There is even a "force TP".. this feature allows the dominant to forcibly send the submissive anywhere in SL. No asking, no chance of complying or refusing, no discussion, just "poof" there you are, in the middle of a Gorean Sim, a nightclub, or a gangbang, at the whim of the dominant in control.

There are some really clever products designed to be used with the RLV...still, all choice is gone, with the RLV. Perfect for a bottom, but in my opinion, not for a submissive, at least not this one.



Why? I will explain soon...

My kink is better than yours!

Let's face it, we are all wired differently. What makes blood rush thru my veins at a great clip...could very well leave someone else cold. (I doubt it, but it could happen!) So many choices, so little time!
Checklists are available that cover almost every activity/kink imaginable...and some that are beyond imagination...at least for me. I discovered this while in the process of listing my limits in world. I came across a kink that, in sl, is offered in a fashion I had not thought possible.

For me, the very idea was so abhorrent, my aversion so strong, that when placing my limits in my profile...'emphatic' would be a mild word for describing my aversion to the activity. That does not mean that the people onto that activity are wrong...it just means, it will not fit my particular needs.

In bdsm, (rl and sl) there is an us/them judgmental process that occurs. While we accept that one person's pain or humiliation is another's pleasure... there is a certain intolerance for some kinks. I am not talking about ones that could even be considered dangerous...the attitude is more of, "My kink is better then yours."

Here, where we can be anything we want... a fairy...a neko... a vampire... a Centaur ... a doll ...a furry .... ( I seem to have a personal affinity for the otters) Alts are often created by some who wish to explore some of the less accepted activities. Whatever form or need being explored by your avatar, the key is SSC. (Safe, Sane and consensual)

Safe~Physical safety is pretty much about as assured as you can get on sl , unless there is someone without any sense,(impaired) following the directions of another with as little sense, or at least lacking the sensibility to know or care about the danger.

Sane~Well... see the last statement...However, that said... Mental safety is still very much at risk. Remember there is a big red X in the corner, but sometimes, by the time that is used, the damage has already been done.

Consensual~ Consent is a tough one. Some say that by merely being here consent is implied. Some tout that to have consent all parties involved need to know everything about the other parties... or it is a lie. Does someone have to be fully informed ...do they have a right to know everything about the person they are playing with to consent? Probably not. I reserve my information to a select few.
So what does this mean for me? (Since no one is free of preconceived notions, even me)
Hopefully, the next time I see someone with a Dolcett tag over his head I will try to remember that he is probably looking at my fairy wings with an *eye roll* and a shudder...because there is a good chance he is thinking his kink is SO MUCH better than mine.
(On the other hand, maybe...dessert?)

Safe words

So ...

I have been working on my limits here on sl. One of the things that I had to remember is my safe word.

My safeword is "Mercy"

Interesting choice, some have said, because it might be taken as "merci" The french word for thank you.

I prefer to think it means, "Thank you, I have had quite enough, for now"

Here in SL, safe words are really meant to keep us safe, not physically... but emotionally... spiritually...psychologically. One can be as traumatized here as anywhere else.

Part of SSC is trying to keep that from happening.
More on Safe Sane and Consensual in a later post.

In rl I live in a RACK household. My Master is well aware of my limits and my mindset. These have been learned over time and the trust that I have is complete Hence, I have not felt the need for Mercy, nor has he expected to hear my safe word in a very, very long time.

I do have another problem. I slip into subspace so easily, it would be difficult or me to know that it is time to safeword. So there have been times when he was aware that we were at a point where play should stop, even when I was not aware of it at the time. Tell me, why would I not trust him completely now?

How does one stop that in SL? I am not sure that I want to. Just want to be certain that the person I am with is trustworthy and responsible.

Actually, that is good advice on both sides of the mirror...

That's the limit!

I was reminded recently that I need to place my limits in my profile, but I was also reminded that not all limits are things that you can state at all, simply because I may not be aware of them as possibilities.

There are things that can be done in sl that really I cannot imagine being possible in rl. Though with a little imagination, I guess... some of it might be possible?

Knowledge, it is a good thing but also what got Eve the bad rep. I have a few questions before I start to place my limits in my profile.

Am I supposed to know about all of the possible kinks to put them on a list?

What do I do if I do encounter one that I am not aware of?

There are ways of taking care of these things.

~~Safewords~~