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Safe words

So ...

I have been working on my limits here on sl. One of the things that I had to remember is my safe word.

My safeword is "Mercy"

Interesting choice, some have said, because it might be taken as "merci" The french word for thank you.

I prefer to think it means, "Thank you, I have had quite enough, for now"

Here in SL, safe words are really meant to keep us safe, not physically... but emotionally... spiritually...psychologically. One can be as traumatized here as anywhere else.

Part of SSC is trying to keep that from happening.
More on Safe Sane and Consensual in a later post.

In rl I live in a RACK household. My Master is well aware of my limits and my mindset. These have been learned over time and the trust that I have is complete Hence, I have not felt the need for Mercy, nor has he expected to hear my safe word in a very, very long time.

I do have another problem. I slip into subspace so easily, it would be difficult or me to know that it is time to safeword. So there have been times when he was aware that we were at a point where play should stop, even when I was not aware of it at the time. Tell me, why would I not trust him completely now?

How does one stop that in SL? I am not sure that I want to. Just want to be certain that the person I am with is trustworthy and responsible.

Actually, that is good advice on both sides of the mirror...

Spinner...or...what is it with guys anyway?

Speaking of limits...

OK it is not really a limit but what is it about guys and having to mention my height?

I am very nearly 5 feet tall. I know that in sl where the women are all 6'8" That may be unusual...but really!!

I like the way, I am and it happens to be the perfect height for a fairy, not an Amazon, so there!

And one other thing? I had to ask around to find out what a spinner was.... really...I am not sure if they have overinflated....ummm egos... or they think that even at 4'11"...oh nevermind!

That's the limit!

I was reminded recently that I need to place my limits in my profile, but I was also reminded that not all limits are things that you can state at all, simply because I may not be aware of them as possibilities.

There are things that can be done in sl that really I cannot imagine being possible in rl. Though with a little imagination, I guess... some of it might be possible?

Knowledge, it is a good thing but also what got Eve the bad rep. I have a few questions before I start to place my limits in my profile.

Am I supposed to know about all of the possible kinks to put them on a list?

What do I do if I do encounter one that I am not aware of?

There are ways of taking care of these things.

~~Safewords~~

For the love of rope...

Rope..gotta love it! I was giving a tour last night of the most beautiful place! It is a house of shibari created by Ma'am's slut.

This house is a place of grace and beauty. Something well worth seeing and experiencing. Slut has really outdone herself this time!

The house is only open to the Certified Role players of the Dark Den...So if you are a member of the Certified RP group or if you are a guest of a member...do not pass the opportunity to experience it! The ropes look better on a naked body, but I was not with Ma'am at the time.

On a side note... about rl rope bondage...

Rope bondage is something that I dearly love in real life. I love the beauty of the ropes as well as the physical restraint. There are several legitimate sites that offer Dojos or classes in the fine art. At just such a class you will learn which ropes work for which purposes, and how to practice in a safe sane and consentual environment.

I must say, the purists tend to like hemp...I do not. But it is a matter of both asthetic tastes and ...

OK, let's be honest... hemp just does not slip as easily as rope so usually someone in my particular position...which do you think that I would prefer?

Warrior nymph? Fairy warrior? Or runs with scissors?

In my short time at Dark Den I have spent more time in a bubble, on my back like a turtle than I care to relate. There is a fine line of weapons made for the smaller amoungst us called "Warrior Nymph." I have been encouraged to hone my skill with these tools... What skills??

I would have to say that I can do more damage with my credit card shopping than any havoc that could be wrought by steel.

I have always preferred to use my wits than force in any situation, but with Ma'am bringing a successor into the world, the times call for something more drastic.

Now, I do not expect to become proficient any time soon, but I would love to be able to stay out of one of those blasted bubbles for a few days at least!