What not to wear....

One of the first conversations that I had when I came to DD was with a Master who mentioned that he could tell that I was not there for sex. It was obvious from my dress it seems. Long ago, I was taught not to display what was not offered and I had kept to the rule for the most part.

Now, I run amok with Ma’am, in the dress she prefers. A belt. It is my acquiescence to her wishes.

However, if you see me without her around you will usually notice that I am dressed or following the dress code of Nayeli. Not an open invitation, to anyone...it is simply what is preferred.

Flower Drum song

Sometimes you just have to get nekkid and dance! (or drum) *L$10*
And doing it with your friends...that is the best! *L$100*

Keeping Ma'am from eating the island might be a bit of a problem though, in the coming weeks!

*Priceless*

BDSM 101~ A bit of a rant

Sighing here, and thinking that this is a good time to say this, since I am convinced that very few read this BLOG. Hopefully, it should not stir anyones pot, toooo much.

So here goes...

This is not aimed at anyone in particular. There are several people that claim to "teach" others about how to be a submissive or how to be Dominant. Recently, I read a disclaimer from one teacher, that her particular lessons are aimed at people interested in the bdsm lifestyle in sl, only. I do not have a problem with learning about D/s in sl. However, please allow me to be perfectly clear about my personal feelings about teaching someone to be a Dom or sub.(Excuse the caps.)

THIS CAN NOT BE TAUGHT!

You either are or you aren't. Period.

I had expressed this to someone, not to long ago, and she agreed, being much more eloquent than I in her assessment. "It is like teaching someone to be left-handed or right-handed. You are either one or the other."

Maybe I am too much of a purest about being submissive, but I have strong feelings about the trust that exists within the power exchange.

Allow me to tell you a quick story.When I first came to sl, a man, approached me, he self-identified as a Dominant. He was actually very nice, but i was abit rankled when told me that he "knew" what it was to be sub. "Interesting," I thought. When I asked him how he knew knew this... he mentioned that he had had lessons. When asked how many lessons it took for him to acquire this knowledge. He said it was about 10. (I cringed)

I think that you can teach someone to "act" submissive or Dominant. I do not think that you can teach someone to "be" such.

Take a look in the mirror, what do you see?

End of rant~

Meeting New People.

Well as you know, I am pretty new to SL.

So, I tend to wander. I am sometimes shopping, sometimes discovering. Most of the places I go I find because I have been profile drilling.

As I wander around, many times I end up talking to someone. This time I was lucky enough to find my way to the Faery Crossing.

I am not sure of the details so if I am wrong they should feel free to correct me....

It is a lovely place consisting of 9 sims. I have only visited the market where I made the Lindens very happy, I think. The beauty and gentility that I found in this place was beyond anything I had expected to find. I am always surprised by the creativity here in sl. But this surpassed all expectaions. The lady that spoke to me ther told me that they have even created a gateway to teach newcomers about the area and the expectaions for behavior.

I was complimented when she told me that by my demeanor and dress I would fit right in. But I do plan to visit the gateway soon since I strongly believe in the adage about being in Rome...

BTW I have connected my profile to this BLOG and every once in a while someone makes a comment about it. Usually it is someone who asks me about my involvement with rl D/s and how it differs with sl D/s. I have run into some interesting aspects here in sl. I think that I should address them in a later post.

The second pic is of an area on Nayeli for Fairies and Mermaids and anyone that wishes to cuddle. (With or without a leash.)

Fairy Phase...

Seem to have found something that I can relate to...ever happen to you? Well It is something that I really need to explore...my inner fairy...

And another thing...

Something has drastically affected me in the last day BTW.

I realized that people are actually reading my BLOG. It was mentioned to me in passing by one person and the other...well she wanted to know about RL bdsm. The result? Though most of the time, D/s or bdsm is something that I do not hide, ever...it is not something I have ever felt can be taught. I have decided to talk more about bdsm in this forum. To answer valid questions, if anyone has any. To be more forthcoming in the future about how it affects me and the people that I care about.

Oh...

I also added a counter to my BLOG. This is for me. So it should not be published. I thought I was only talking to myself, and frankly I was beginning to bore myself to tears! I mean how ego centric can I get? I hope I did it right. It should not be published for everyone to see. I hate those counters that look like the old McDonalds signs..."Over a gazillion sold!"

Nope, hence the counter is so that I can see if anyone is out there.

Of course, comment would help there too...ahem...hint.. hint

But then I have been pretty gentle in my observations, so far...

Perhaps I should be more controversial?

Where the red cube led me...

One day, after I had been introduced to the Dark Den red cube intended for the role play certification (More on that in a later post) I ventured there.

The lights grew dim, sl, was having its version of a brown out and I was left alone on the sim, (almost)unable to tp out, and pretty sure that if I tried I would be one of the casualties...as I watched the counter of on-line log ins for sl drop to under 30K for people in world Now was my chance to explore the Den without fear of kidnap or enslavement, or so I thought.

I was aware of only one other person on the sim. This was beast, the alter ego, half sister, would be uni-bomber of Dark Den. (recently re-programmed)

She offered to give me a tour of the Country of Glint. During this time we talked about many things. I had not learned to log conversations yet, so I have not idea what it was we talked about. But I do know one thing...

I was enchanted... I still am...